Well, it finally happened. Bill has been placed in his forever home, and he now lives several hours from us. His new parents said that they will stay in touch, but you never know. Even though we still have a seven-year-old, the house is so quiet.
A week after I wrote my last blog, Bill went to visit for four nights and the following weekend we delivered him for the final time. Unlike all the other transitions we have ever done, we did a parking lot transfer. In other words, as we unloaded his things from our car the social worker brought the final paperwork and told us we could go. We had hoped to talk for a few minutes and say good-bye, but we quickly hugged, said our good-byes and left. She made a visit a week later and couldn’t figure out why he was having a tough time – clueless.
The only thing I can compare the feeling to is the loss of a loved one. Bill lived with us for two years and nine months. The loss feels tremendous. Everything we do, everywhere we look and most everything we see reminds us of that laughing little boy. He was such a lively part of our lives. But that time is now over.
We pray that Bill comes to accept his new mom and dad. We pray that his new mom and dad have fallen so much in love with him that no matter what manifests, they will love him enough to keep him. (Yes, adoptive parents have the option of returning kids if things get too tough.) And, maybe one day they will re-establish contact with us and at least send us updates with a few pictures.
Many have asked us if we will continue to be foster parents and we always answer that we do not know. That decision belongs to God. We do need time to heal and for our family to reconnect. We will renew our license, but we will wait to see where God leads us. That will sound strange/weird to some people, but many will understand.
I hope that this first Mother’s Day was the best for his new mom. I know that she has anticipated this day for years. Today was a dream come true. We are so glad we had a hand in this.
Being a mom is not instinct, it has to be learned. Girls learn to be moms from watching their own moms. Pretty much any lady can have a baby, but it takes someone special to be a mom. Blessings to all the moms that happen to read this.
***John E. Stack is the author of Cody’s Almost Trip to the Zoo, Cody’s Rescue Adventure at the Zoo and Olivia’s Sweet Adventure.