If you have read very many of my blogs, you would know that my wife and I are foster parents. We work with medical critical babies. We care for them, help them feel safe, and try to help them get ready for their transition back home or to their forever families. We have had babies live with us for as short as two weeks and up to two and a half years. Currently, we have a little boy I will call Bill. You may have read about Bill in some previous blogs that I have written. He has been a part of our lives for quite a while.
Bill’s life is getting ready to start a new chapter and we are excited for him, but also sad because of the changes. A special family has been identified to become his forever family and if all goes as we hope, then in a couple of months Bill will have a new mom and dad.
Bill was a preemie, with some medical problems. The doctors didn’t have a very positive outlook on whether he would have a normal life or how well he would be able to function. They figured he would have at least some learning disabilities. In every aspect of his life, Bill was delayed. Bill was followed by four or five doctors of various specialties. This meant lots of appointments, lots of blood drawing, and lots of therapy.
In the meantime, Bill was tied up in court. His birth mom and dad refused to get their acts together. They talked a good talk, but they refused to follow the plan that the court had established. After two years, the parents lost their rights.
Well, because the court process is so slow, the Department of Social Services did not start looking for adoptive parents. They did keep asking my wife if we had found someone. Finally, my wife told the social worker that finding adoptive parents was not her job. Anyway, my wife started praying that we could find someone in the local area that would want to adopt.
We are firm believers in prayer. We have seen too many children far exceed the doctor’s expectations. We’ve also seen the expressions on doctor’s faces when the child they said would never walk, ran across the floor. God is still in the business of miracles and we get the pleasure of watching them happen.
Bill is still small for his age, but is now running and jumping. You can’t understand everything he says, but he likes to talk and asks questions all the time. Bill loves to sing and everything is classified a drum, and anything can be used as a drum stick. (He plays in time with any music we listen to.) And, he has a girlfriend, who is about his same height.
Once we were given the okay to really look for adoptive parents, Suzanne changed her prayers a little. This time she prayed that she wanted a good Christian family that would be willing to adopt Bill, that would understand some of his issues, someone that had previously raised kids, someone that would help foster his love of music, and finally, she wanted to have someone approach her and say that they believed that God had placed the desire to adopt Bill on her heart. Talk about asking God for specifics.
About three weeks later, a lady at his preschool asked Suzanne if she could talk to her about Bill. Preschool was what my wife considered her last gift to Bill – the opportunity to be separate from her and gain some independence. She said that several weeks before she felt like God was pushing her toward Bill and she had really fallen in love with him. But, within the past week she felt that God wanted her to adopt Bill. She had talked it all through with her husband. Then she looked at Suzanne and said that she felt that God had placed it on her heart to adopt Bill. This was one of the few times my wife was left speechless.
After getting some information and a little small talk, my wife had to leave. As she sat in the car, she felt amazed at what had just happened. She really found it hard to believe that the lady had used almost the same words that she had prayed. Then it seemed like a small voice said in the back of her mind – isn’t that what you asked for?
Miracles happen, sometimes we just need to ask. We are pretty sure that all of this will work out and Bill will get his forever family. Meanwhile, we work transition and short visits, waiting for all the paperwork to happen. It is bittersweet, but he deserves the best. He has been through a lot, but we believe it will be worth it in the end.
Have you ever considered an adventure in foster care or adoption? Check it out. It could be the most blessed ride you have ever taken.
***John E. Stack is the author of Cody’s Almost Trip to the Zoo, Cody’s Rescue Adventure at the Zoo, and Olivia’s Sweet Adventure.